It’s awkward when…

It’s awkward when a friend asks me to lend them some money. I mean, I know, nobody would be borrowing money unless they really need it. At least in my circle of friends, I believe they do.

It’s awkward because they don’t beat around the bush, out of the blue, they just text you and say, “Hey TM, do you have some spare cash that you can lend to me?”. Then they tell you how much they need. And that they’ll pay you back at a certain date, usually by their next paycheck.

And what can I say? They are my friends, they need cash, and while I’m not rich, I can spare a couple of hundred for a friend in need. This particular friend was unemployed for sometime and was just getting a new job. So I just replied, “OK”. And I transferred the money there and then. Then they reply, “Thanks, I owe you one. I’ll pay back at the end of the month”.

“Sure, no problem. I’m sure you’d do the same for me”, is what I say.

And the conversation ends, just like that.

It doesn’t happen once, but a few times. It’s just awkward, I don’t know what else to say. But I have asked for my money back because it’s been 5 months since. It’s not so much that I NEED it back, it’s more of a matter of trust. If they can’t pay me back now, just tell me instead of keeping quiet about it.

I have yet to get it back. Ugh, so awkward.

You look like a panda

As I wrote in a previous post about my boss being a robot, I have now established that she does eat. But that doesn’t change the fact that she works everyone very hard.

I have to wear concealer to cover my eyebags, and there was once I didn’t put on enough, my colleague said, “Are you okay? You look like a panda”. Pandas are cute but I do not want to look like a panda. Ever since then, I will always wear as much as I can. Another colleague who has just been with us for a little over 2 months said she had to put on two layers of concealer to look human. So remember boys and girls, concealer is your friend.

Ever since reporting to this department in January, my work life balance has been crazy. Every staff is overworked, each of us is probably handling about 3 people workload. Our team members are falling sick one-by-one. Sometimes I feel so stressed that I just disconnect.

Transferring to a different function would be difficult because I know the big guys won’t approve. Happened to some of my ex-colleagues.

I’ve been looking out for a new job but the job market is not looking too good. And then, plot twist! Another company is going to acquire our company. It’s highly unlikely this new entity will be keeping ~20,000+ staff so yeah…

We’ll see how it goes.

Until then, let’s enjoy some panda video because they are adorable and I don’t know how to end this post.

 

 

 

 

Positivity

I’m working for a corporation in a highly competitive (stressful) industry and I work around 12 hours a day and sometimes weekends. Already overwhelmed with tons of work, today I was surprised by more work i.e. what my CEO wants. I just don’t know how to cope.
Just to keep myself being positive, I want to list down all the good things about working here.
  1. Everyone is jaded but everyone is nice and helpful, regardless. Everyone is in this together.
  2. When I organise events for the 1000+ staff, I get a lot of support and seeing them having a good time is priceless.
  3. I write key messages and design communication materials that (hopefully) all staff reads.
  4. When we do go out to eat together, we would order so much food and just have a good time.
  5. A guy at my floor is a graduate from culinary school so he brings homebaked cakes occasionally, it’s really good.
  6. The tea lady here sells fruits and snacks so we don’t have to go anywhere.
  7. I’m sitting at the best floor in the building. It’s the project management office and it’s always buzzing after 6pm.
  8. Ever since I was in university, I’ve wanted to work in the Central Business District.

My boss is a robot

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A real robot.

I’m being serious here. Is she even human? I’m not talking about her lack of emotion, because she can get emotional when she wants to. Or needs to, just to get what she wants.

Here’s why I say she’s a robot.

She comes to work early, she goes back very late.

Every single day! She comes in before most of us do. Usually, I can already hear the sound of her loud voice as she talks on the phone whenever I come to the office. I sit down and I sign-in to my computer. I pray hard that she wouldn’t call me and for her to just leave the office for her many meetings. Fast forward to end of the day. She comes back to the office after her back-to-back meetings. Sometimes, she would be back during lunch and leave again. After office hours is the only time she has to see her subordinates and for us to update her with anything. She would stay until 9-10 pm, before she leaves. Rinse and repeat. She even works on weekends.

Normal human beings need to rest. I bet she goes back and plug into a socket to recharge.

Okay, okay, so you may say that is how most bosses work. Here’s my second point.

I have never seen her eat.

As I said, she comes in early, then she goes out for meetings. She comes back during lunch hour and asks us to see her even though we haven’t had a bite to eat. We all were forced to work late, but I’ve never seen her eat any evening meals.

I was just talking about this with one of my team mates who have been with her way longer. She denied it and said she has seen the boss eating.I refuse to believe until I see it myself. Gosh, now I just sound like I’m paranoid.

She lacks empathy and is very persistent that everything goes her way or the highway.

One of my teammates had to work despite her daughter being sick. The boss doesn’t care about you or the fact that you have family.And when you are sick, you have to work because nobody is gonna be covering for you.

Whenever she talks to anyone, she has to be right. ALL. THE. TIME.

Then what is the point of asking other people’s opinion? I simply don’t get it. It’s like her algorithm is stuck in an infinite loop. Until she gets what she wants.To make it worse, she micromanages. Every little decision needs to go through her, she wants to know all the details.

Other than that, she is a selective listener. She only listens to what she wants to hear. She can’t understand if I give my input on certain matters if it doesn’t meet her expectations. She just couldn’t compute certain things. Only when I say, “Sure, I’ll do it right away”, that she understands me.

So there it is. My boss, the robot.

Stop making me feel bad – Running away from direct sales people

Stop making me feel bad!

Do you feel that way sometimes? After someone asks you for something and you have to turn them down. It’s not a good feeling. In fact, in my case it happens on a daily basis. Let me show you what I mean.

After a long, unpleasant day at work, I walked to the subway station. To get to the station, one has to pass through in front of a few stores in a shopping mall. As is the norm in Malaysia, sales agents are allowed to set-up promotion booths in the mall. And they would stand there, left and right, at the passage with the highest volume of human traffic.

“Hi. Do you have a moment, I would like to tell you about…”, the young man tried his best to say all that in a tenth of a millisecond. He was from Bank X, trying to sell credit cards with luggage bags as gifts.

I stopped him short by waving my hand and a sorry smile. He backed away.

Arriving at my station, more sales agents await me at the bottom of the stairs. This time it was Bank Y. I did not say anything, nor did I signaled that I’m not interested. And he followed me for a few feet, trying to convince me that I would want some free electrical appliances if I signed up. But I apologized and said that I’m not interested.

Funny thing is, I always walk with a cluster of people but they always seem to single me out! Is it because I look approachable or because I look like I need unsecured lending?

And I felt bad because it has happened many times, just with a different sales person from a different bank.

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The face they made…or the face that I imagine they made when I turn them down

Situations like these are very common. It seems that all financial institutions in the country are trying to sell the easiest form of credit facility – the credit card. Leveraging on what is considered Malaysia’s favourite pastime which is going to the shopping mall, these sales agents get to work.

I don’t blame them, I can understand the pressure of trying to achieve monthly sales target. A guy I know from the Cards department in my company said that his sales agents do feel discouraged from being turned down so often.

Here’s a few ways to avoid them:

  • To tell them that you already own the object that they’re selling. This would work with internet service providers, mobile service providers and even credit card companies. Probably wouldn’t work with cosmetics especially if they’re the persistent types who would pull you to the side and start spreading random cream on your skin. Ugh.
  • One of my friends liked to say this to credit card agents – “I already have too many debts”. And before he could start telling his debt-ridden life story, those agents would turn on their heels so fast.
  • Tell them your annual income is less than RM24k, and that you already own 2 credit cards. They’d usually be like kthxbai.
  • If you can’t get rid of them, join them. Some of my friends would sign up just for the freebies, and cancel the credit card once they received them. Heck, sometimes your application will get rejected but who cares? You got freebies!